Yesterday I was asked to write about abuse, I have written quite a lot actually and it isn't easy since I have very tough feelings about how we live and why and where things source from. Many people would kill me if they could because I try with all of my might not to uphold the idea or the belief of victim. This causes apoplectic spasm of blame and hatred to spew forth at me which although I think I can handle it, I do at times feel sad that we still hold out on/for the VICTIM ticket. Now there is a reason I am such a tough proponent for "self responsibility" this isn't because I am a sadist or insensitive or stupid although I can be all of those things too. I try to empower.
I find it essential in this journey called "life" that we find the "key' the nuclear center of each and every one of us. I am desperate for everyone to "get" their good, to discover their own power. To find their sweet spot to adore and use that endless source of greatness that each of us possess.
It empowers me to know you are there or getting there. I get off thinking about the wonders that can be accomplished when a person discovers that they are "it".
So when I am asked to write about abuse or murder and it's horror I get frustrated because I sense a sort of victim "club" in the mix. This "they were so innocent , blah blah blah", I am not saying that children and women who have forgotten themselves and are powerless and or beaten to death are not in serious need. Do not misunderstand me...but I ask from day one, from thought one, from idea one...when do we begin to take responsibility of our experiences? I say NOW, NOW , NOW.
In any event there are micro moments where maybe we could turn around , leave, say no, or simply wake up and find a way out!
...Or even more complicated maybe what it is, is what is needed in the broader perspective, we will never know since broader perspective is wider then we can see!
Having worked for a few months speaking and raising money for "Surviving families of homicide victims" I learned that there is a much deeper mechanism involved in the path of an individuals life and it is not my job or yours to decide what is a good death or a bad death. That it is the "story" we attach and use that determines our own understanding and healing process and it's time line. That we can "milk' any event or we can learn and move on and grow up from it, understanding that we may never understand how "these things happen". So to address abuse is one of my least favorite subjects because it is complicated and it isn't easy and it is NOT black or white.
I believe we have the absolute power over everything in our "story" and if it isn't a pretty picture and or if we have forgotten this key (or cannot know it) then we start there...but I don't believe in victims.
I believe in us...as creatures who create through vibratory resonance.
Not easy to understand and it is a lonely ideology but it is what I believe.
There are no victims, just confusion on both sides.