It is vital to make a commitment to love, if we are in it or if we want it, of course we start here now with ourselves. Everyday I fantasize about "lover" no it's not my man. I think of this ideal, I imagine my every need being met in this magical satisfying way, me, mine, complete orgasmic heaven. Of course some wise doctor pointed out that an infant is the only other creature who wants that. Healthy adults don't even think it's possible or they miss satisfying their significant other. So I am or can be infantile. Oh sure we can chalk it up to a truncated relationship with mother. I had a very truncated relationship, short and cold. Poor me, I kid.
Sure I missed the walks the cuddles and the sweet time of magic girls can have with mother. On the other hand my entire life has been dedicated to discovery and learning about life. Deep investigation with the core realization that being lover being a fully flushed out adult in relationship with the divinity in both my self and my significant brings me close to the sweet spot some call Nirvana.
How do we achieve such a far flung thang? I know it's so exotic and some of us are all thumbs when it comes to love. If I could give you the shortest route to it I would NOT because I would be robbing you of the path, the journey. No one can ride the roller coaster for us we HAVE to do it ourselves and same with life and love. It's your journey. I have a love hate relationship with self help books, programs to speed up self realization, it feels as if it is counter productive to the actual experience. Speed seems to me to be the problem and what's the rush? Okay so love and being a better lover here, now, in our lives, our lives as they are now with or without a mate that's a privilege because we have something to learn and do. That's another thing, you don't need anyone else to do this. Taking the care and being thoughtful to yourself and your neighbor is the first steps to becoming a fantastic lover.
I am only in this (life) to be a fantastic lover.
Money fame and fortune is not the goal they are a by-product of a fully connected loving life filled with joy.
If you were given the choice of Self realization or a billion dollars what would you take?
I would take the source (Self realization) the connectedness...that's what we want cash for anyway, to feel safe.